"We are not pieces of chocolate!"
"To hear all these men saying, 'Ah, he [Dominique Strauss-Kahn, accused rapist] is so seductive and just loves women...' Give me a break. This is not 'Ah, we French love food and women.' We are not pieces of chocolate." Nicole Bacharan, political scientist, as quoted in "The Turning Point" by Elaine Sciolino in Time Magazine, May 30, 2011:
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I keep asking myself why did those women who married famous womanizers think their men were going to be faithful? Is it part of those women's psychology that their own femininity is so great that it will make that kind of masculinity bow to them and become faithful?
Some of the questions I want to ask are:
Are many men patronizing women because they do not believe in being faithful but know they must make a false promise to be faithful because only women believe marriage means the husband is faithful to his wife?
Is society crazy to 'impose layers of socialization' on our boys 'and hope they internalize it' but not simultaneously protect our girls? Is there a down side to promoting to young boys and girls the 'bad boy' as an icon of masculinity. (I saw an episode of iCarly where Carly rejected the 'bad boy' solely on the basis of his being a collector of plush toys.)
As a mother of two young boys, I realize I am responsible for trying to explain these kinds of things to my sons. I think I am going to keep it simple and just say, "Women are not pieces of chocolate!"
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